“I don’t feel confident at work” How many times have we thought this? No matter how wonderful your job is, no matter how much your company takes care of you, it’s inevitable to have this feeling sometimes.
According to The Conference Board website, only 57% of the world’s workers are happy with their jobs. As you can see, you are not the only one who is not happy with your job.
It’s not necessarily a bad thing. Nonconformity is part of human nature and wanting to evolve is inherent to a good worker.
The problem comes when we complain and complain without doing anything about it.
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Why am I not happy with my job?
This is the first question we should ask ourselves. It is not enough to feel that we are not comfortable. We have to be introspective and analyze the real factors that make us feel uncomfortable. Know yourself.
Keep in mind that these factors are usually completely subjective: two people may feel differently about the same situation. You must identify your own reasons.
Some of the most frequent (but not the only ones) are:
- My company does not treat me well.
- I feel a lot of pressure at work.
- My relationship with my boss is not too good.
- My relationship with my colleagues is not good.
- I can’t reconcile my work and personal life very well.
- I feel I do not earn enough.
- I don’t feel valued.
- I feel that my professional career is stagnating.
- I am not doing what I would really like to do.
- I am tired of always doing the same thing.
Once the problem has been identified, it is time to take action.
“I don’t feel confident at work” How can I improve my work situation? 5 Tips to feel better at work.
Complaining without doing anything makes no sense. In my house, we have a motto: “If you don’t like something, change it”. If you have followed the previous step, you will have a better idea of what is wrong with you. Fortunately, there are some very effective ways to change it.
1.- Change your attitude towards your job
Many times the problem comes not so much from the job or the company itself, but from how we face our expectations. We must be realistic with our situation and adapt to this reality.
A fixed and very stable job can have the counterpart of being monotonous and boring. Is it worth it? If your answer is yes, stop complaining because you are bored.
I don’t have the job I’ve always dreamed of. I’d like to be an oil painter, but the job market really demands graphic designers and I’m not willing to risk selling my own paintings because I don’t make enough money to lead the life I’d like to lead (real situation of a colleague). So is it worth it to you to be a graphic designer? If the answer is yes, try to appreciate more what you are doing.
It is also true that many times we idealize things we don’t have. I myself have found myself in situations where, after fighting hard to work on something, it is not really what I had imagined.
Reflect and change your attitude. Find the good things and reinforce them.
2.- Talk to your manager
If you have been working in the company for some time, try to evaluate different measures that you can negotiate with the human resources department. For example, the possibility of a change of position within the organization. If you feel that there is a position in that company that is more in line with your background and experience, a position to which you have much more to offer thanks to your previous preparation, then take the initiative to make your request.
When you make your suggestion, it is important that you give objective reasons for your request through arguments that indicate that you are a good candidate for the position.
If you believe that the time has come to ask for a salary increase, then you can also take this initiative, expressing, as in the previous point, the reasons for this decision.
3.- Change the way you relate to your colleagues.
Another big problem is the way we relate to our coworkers and our bosses. In the end, work is a social activity and as such it has to satisfy us socially.
One of the big changes in my life was the discovery of assertive communication. Thanks to being assertive, I improved my work relationships a lot. I learned to put myself in my colleagues’ shoes and it helped me to be better understood by them. When we bring this human component to work relationships, when we are sincere, assertive, and transparent, personal relationships improve.
Assertive communication is based on calm, clarity, and respect; who doesn’t like to be treated that way? Learning is much easier than you think.
4.- Set goals and achieve them.
Another of the most frequent causes of discontent is that we do not know exactly what we want. We must know ourselves, we must be critical and incisive and not get carried away. Think about where you really want to go.
Once you have calmly meditated where you want to get to, set yourself some objectives to reach your goal. Do you want to be the head of your department? Train yourself, communicate it assertively to the people who can help you achieve it, evaluate the opportunities and be patient.
5.- Refocus your career
If you’re really unhappy with your area of expertise, think about changing. It doesn’t matter your age or your circumstances, as long as you think it through and have a plan to get there.
Many people will tell you to get training, and that’s fine, but training alone does not bring opportunities. How many of us are working in something that is not directly related to our academic background?
Training must be accompanied by more actions. Undertake a personal project, get in touch with people in the environment where you would like to work, apply for positions in which you have no experience, and try to get them with attitude… It is not easy, but if you are constant and have a good plan, in the long run, it will pay off.
You have every right to be unhappy in your job, whatever the circumstances. You’d be surprised how many people who earn a lot of money and have jobs that may look wonderful from the outside are not satisfied with what they do either.
What you don’t have the right to do is complain without fighting to change things. If you want things to change, change them. Logically you do not have the capacity to change everything, but you can focus on the things that you can change.
- Be positive, be assertive, motivate yourself.
- Be intelligent. Listen to yourself. Set yourself a plan, a goal, and realistic objectives.
- Be bold. Don’t be afraid of things changing because what you really need is for them to change.
- Be consistent. Failure is more frequent than success. Strive and take control of your destiny.